Secrets of the relationship in which the wife is older than her husband
The topic of unequal marriages is quite common, people do not get tired to discuss and condemn such relationships. Relationships in which a man older than a woman are considered quite acceptable, even if this difference is 10, 15, or even 20 years. It is believed that the girl has found herself a profitable party, such a man will be able to provide for her family, and also become a reliable support and a strong wall if necessary.
But the relationship in which a woman is older is considered wrong, in every possible way reproached and condemned. That is why many adult women, having met a young man, are afraid to respond to his courtship, trying to protect themselves from this, avoiding human gossip and "sidelong" views.
And, if a woman still allows herself to start a relationship with such a young man, then, more often, she begins to make blunders that kill these very relations. They begin to insist on legalizing relations, try to have a child from their chosen one, and also go to extremes: they arrange tantrums about their age, they have manic jealousy, which begins to border on madness.
All this is due to the fact that in a relationship where the wife is much older than the husband, of course, the man is in a better position. We are not talking about couples, in which the difference is 3-5 years, this is nonsense, because people were brought up on the general errors of society, fashion trends, as well as historical events.
Problems begin in pairs, where the difference is from 10 to 20 or even more years. The woman realizes that she is in a fading stage and, quite possibly, that this is her last true love, the problem is also in the reproductive age, because it ends earlier than for men. And her partner is young and ambitious, he has everything ahead, of course, it is emotionally exhausting.
Reasons for a relationship
Most often, when such couples are formed, this suggests that the woman has already managed to take place, she is most likely financially secure and has a good job, so she does not need the financial support of her young partner.
Often in such a relationship, a woman acts as a teacher, and a man - as a student. Often in such relationships, hidden or subconscious desires of partners are realized, one likes to lead, and the other to obey.And if the temperament of both partners is really that, then such relations may well have a good success.
Another reason is usually of a sexual nature. Women, especially with a passionate temperament, need attention and active sex life.
Unfortunately, not everyone of the same age will be able to provide her with the level of sexual relations she needs, because women after thirty years have the peak of their sexual activity, while in men it starts to decline.
That is why a woman begins a subconscious search for a young partner who will be able to fully satisfy her.
And the third reason is the hypertrophied maternal instinct. This applies to those women who were unable to materialize in motherhood. They are already adults and independent, and there is no one to take care of, so a young man begins to play this role.
Major problems and mistakes
The main mistake of all unequal relations is that a woman begins to fall into two extremes - to build up a “mommy” who constantly takes care of her beloved, thereby not giving him a pass, or trying to become a “girl”.
None of these states is wrong, because you are neither one nor the other, but your chosen one has liked you for what you are. Each age is beautiful in its own way, and if all this is accompanied by the glittering love eyes of a woman, it is worth it. Do not talk to him, as with a small one, do not explicitly emphasize your age difference. Once you are partners, you should be on equal terms with regards to all aspects of life.
The next problem is what will people say? Our society is not too tolerant, many people use evil tongues and gossip that can not be sustained by every woman's nature. If you nevertheless decided to legalize your relationship, then, most likely, the young family will have to go through many “sidelong” views, as well as unpleasant situations. You need to decide for yourself what is more important to you - personal happiness and a long life together or the opinions of strangers. Of course, you decide.
Ways to a happy life together
I always want to believe that the relationship that binds you now is forever, that love will not fade, but you will live a long life together. Honestly, the statistics speak of multiple divorces of equal marriages, but what can we say about those where a woman or a man is older.But there are exceptions that are quite realistic to get into, it’s just necessary to behave correctly and make a considerable amount of effort.
First, it is necessary to understand once and for all that your man is younger and you live with it. Think a few times before running to the registry office, because divorces in such situations are indeed a frequent occurrence and you can be no exception.
The stamp in the passport is not the main thing, the main thing is feelings and mutual care, and everything else will follow.
If required, you can sign at any time. But it's up to you, of course.
The second point concerns children. For some reason, there is an opinion among mature women that having given birth to a child from her young partner, she will be able to keep him. No, he can not. If he decides to leave, and this may well be, then he will leave, regardless of the child and common property.
And then you will not stay at the youngest age with a child in her arms, which will have to grow and financially provide. Of course, a completely different thing, if you give birth to a child - this will be your joint decision.
The third point is youth. How to maintain a relationship in which the wife is older than her husband? This question is asked more than once by women, who are in such a relationship.They will have to be more difficult, because beauty and youth are not eternal concepts, but they can be extended by taking care of themselves. Often such relationships suffer because of jealousy of young girls, a mature woman believes that she is no longer so attractive.
Taking care of yourself and living the right way of life are two things that will help keep your unequal relationships.
The fourth point is partnerships. Enjoy your love, do not try to put yourself above your chosen one, both in a material and moral position. Often, wealthy women are trying to extend their relationship at the expense of money, as if paying for sex, zadarivaya his gifts and opportunities.
But one great moment will come when he gets tired of all this and he will leave anyway. No wonder they say that love - the only thing that is not bought.
Now you know about all the dangers of such a relationship. To risk or not: decide on your own.